Dating 2 men
I believe wisdom involves focusing on one man at a time. If you're thinking of having dinner with guy A on Friday, telling him you love him, and kissing him passionately before saying goodnight, and then doing all that again with guy B on Saturday, I'd say you're in for a heap of trouble. Remember that before they're a potential husband, they're your brother in Christ.
When Steve and I were growing in friendship, along with a great group of other singles in our graduate school program, I knew it would be impossible to move forward in our relationship (past friendship) until, and unless, he considered what we had together apart from all the other possibilities. Relate to them that way, and you'll save yourself (and them) a lot of heartache and sorrow. Resist the temptation to race ahead of where you are in .
He says it this way, "Like a good photographer who knows how to zoom-in on one detail, I had to choose to zoom-in on Candice — to the exclusion of all the other women in the room — in order to know what our potential was as a couple." Until he made that decision, even though our friendship was growing, it never could move past friendship because there were always other distractions. We're prone to anxiety over things that never happen. This is, I believe, the most practical point of advice.
I think that's one reason God tells us not to worry about tomorrow. Flirting is the tip of the iceberg to the world of sensuality.
What's more likely is that as you get to know these men as friends, one will emerge as the man you're more drawn to (or possibly you'll realize neither is a good fit for marriage).
Relate to each man — when all together, as well as when it's one-on-one — in an honorable way. Simply ask, is "showing or feeling sexual desire." Flirting may be fun, at least in the beginning, but it's fleshly, not spiritual. He is Sovereign over His children, down to the very number of hairs on their heads and the length of days in their lives. Then, as He does, be a good steward of that wisdom and those opportunities. Until you're married to one man, you're not married.
It goes with seduction, not wisdom and righteousness (Romans , Colossians 3:8-10). We can be so focused on finding "the one," and worried that we'll miss him, that we fail to pay attention to the one right in front of us. All of this boils down to the law of love (Matthew -40). Recognize their worth as men made in the image of God. Keeping that obvious, but overlooked, reality in mind is a great guide. In Christ, CANDICE WATTERS If you’ve enjoyed this article, will you consider giving a tax-deductible gift to Boundless right now?
The guilt may be your conscience speaking; it's a voice worth heeding.
While it's possible to consider two men at once, it's not advisable for the reasons you've already raised: It's difficult to do it in a way that's honoring to them, which dings your reputation and leaves you feeling guilty. You've said it might be too early in the relationships to have to choose, and I suspect you're right.