Dating in 50s
So rather than think of the negative, like, ‘It didn’t work out’, think ,’Why didn’t it work out? ’ And use that to make it better the next time.” And, Jo says, this can especially be true if your dating skills are a bit rusty.“If you haven’t been on a date in, say, 20 years, actually the best way to get good at dating is to date.She says: “Either speak to a trusted friend and get their advice, or book a session with a dating coach because they’re impartial and will give you advice to get you started again.” When it comes to chemistry, Jo says, we often expect it to be an instant thing – butterflies and feeling overwhelmed.But as we get older, it can be a slower burn than when we dated as a younger person.“For a lot of younger people, they meet up after a few texts.Whereas to me, what’s very important is having, not a long chat on the phone, but at least a brief chat with somebody.“That might be sense of humour, somebody who enjoys sport, someone who’s adventurous – those kind of things matter.
He’s doing his best and yes, you may be able to do it better or faster than he can but don’t… If he’s offered to do something for you, allow him to do it his way.“Your type from when you dated back in your 20s and 30s, will have probably changed.” she says.“Taking a bit of time out to work out that you might be attracted to different sorts of people these days, is worth [it].” “Think about three really important, non-negotiable qualities that you’re looking for in a partner,” suggests Jo.If you expect love to come in words…you could be waiting a very long time. Let them open the door for you or change that light bulb you can’t reach. All they want in return is to be appreciated and thanked.If you do this, they’ll do anything you want, which leads us to Tip #5.